Dating isn’t a relationship strategy. Dating more doesn’t create a relationship.  Relationships are created when you’re visible and emotionally available so real connection can  actually happen on the date. Most women think they’re going in open.But the strategy they’re unconsciously using is what I call “defensive dating.” They’re in their head.Monitoring. Evaluating. Withholding. Managing the outcome.Trying to calm their nerves […]

If you’re new here, yesterday’s post matters. (click here to read, “Dating is not a relationship strategy”) I shared why dating alone doesn’t create relationships, connection does. And if connection hasn’t been happening, it’s usually because protection has been your unconscious strategy.   Most smart, strong, successful women aren’t getting the relationship they want because they’re protecting […]

How Being Guarded Pushes Good Men Away Have you ever caught yourself on a date, scanning for red flags before the first drink even hits the table? It’s like walking through airport security with your emotional metal detector turned up to max, beeping at every tiny movement he makes. You notice if he checks his […]